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Demisexual, Demiromantic & Demisensual

The Three Dimensions of Connection-Based Attraction Photo by Christin Hume on Unsplash I had broken off a complicated long distance relationship, and my need to be held was overwhelming me. I had gone months without much more than a brief hug from a friend. I reached out to a woman, a close friend, whom I’d briefly dated but… Continue reading Demisexual, Demiromantic & Demisensual

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Friending for Demisexuals

The Unique and Powerful Nature of Demisexual Friendships Photo by Courtney Cook on Unsplash “There’s not a word yet for old friends who’ve just met.” — Jim Henson Ceci was effectively my best friend, yet I knew I wasn’t hers. We’d met in a college photography class in the early 90’s, and we’d become friends after working on assignments… Continue reading Friending for Demisexuals

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Demisexual Disconnection

How To Break Or Mend When The Emotional Signal Is Lost Photo by Paul Garaizar on Unsplash “Vulnerability is the birthplace of connection and the path to the feeling of worthiness. If it doesn’t feel vulnerable, the sharing is probably not constructive.” — Brene Brown It was six months to the day, of that wonderful evening I’d spent with… Continue reading Demisexual Disconnection

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The Care and Keeping of Your Demisexual

When the Friend Zone is the Doorway Photo by Christiana Rivers on Unsplash “If you wanna be my lover, you gotta get with my friends. Make it last forever; friendship never ends” — Spice Girls “Would you like to come back to my place?” she asked with a clear intention. We’d danced half the night away, and had… Continue reading The Care and Keeping of Your Demisexual